Time to Love

The Better Way…………A Time to Love

Love is a word that has been overused, misused, bandied about, cheapened and corrupted. The mention of love assaults (and often offends) our senses from popular songs, advertising, promoting—tinkling and screaming and exhorting us from every direction. Even most dictionary definitions focus mainly on love in the sense of sexual attraction and relationship between people.

The ancient Greeks had several definitions of love. The four most commonly used are:

Eros, or sexual passion

Philia, deep friendship

Storge, love of parents, children and families

Agape, the love of God for man and man for God.

Perhaps agape love is the strongest and purest of the four, but any attempt to describe agape love will fall far short. For God’s love is vast, immeasurable, unfailing, everlasting and far beyond our human understanding. God IS love. That’s what he is made of. That’s what he is. God’s love is extended to everyone who has ever walked the face of the earth, whether they believe in him or not, whether they’re poor or rich, highly successful or dismal failures, good or bad, nice or nasty, rulers of nations or beggars in the gutter. Nothing we do will make him love us less. And nothing we can try to do will earn his love. It’s a gift and it’s free, because Jesus paid the price.

God created us and loved us from the moment of our conception and will love us to the day we die, whether we acknowledge him, mock and scorn him, deride him or deny him. He longs for us to turn to him and be born again by his spirit, and to live with him forever. And his command to us is that we love one another.

That’s easy when it’s our families, or the inspirational people we look up to, or our best friend, or the lovely people in our church. Not so easy, though, when it’s a druggie hanging around our child’s school, or the bully who made our schooldays a misery, or a dictator creating suffering for thousands, or the sarcastic boss you see every day. But still a command. For love is a powerful force, and there is no weapon against it.

‘Love Wins’ is the title of a book that has caused controversy. Whatever your viewpoint, that title speaks truth. In the end, it is only love that will remain and conquer the horrors of this present world.

Martin Luther King Jnr said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only love can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.”

So let’s accept the love of God in Jesus, so that we can love ourselves and love others, and in our own various ways hold back the darkness. It’s a time to love.

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Eleanor Watkins
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Atelophobia

A mental illness is a condition in which a person’s normal thinking, behaviors and responses to surroundings or certain circumstances are impaired. Among the “anxiety disorders” is Atelophobia.

Etymologically speaking the word atelophobia is composed of two greek words; the prefix Atelo(s) means imperfect and the postfix phobia means fear. Therefore the word Atelophobia literally means they fear of being imperfect. People who have this psychological conditioned are termed as Atelophobic. Atelophobia is classified as an anxiety disorder as are most phobias and therefore it is the specialty of mental health professionals.

Atelophobia is the fear of not doing something right or the fear of not being good enough. Quite simply put it’s a fear of imperfection. Persons suffering from this psychological disorder may be often depressed when their perceived expectations do not match reality.

An atelophobic has the fear that whatever he is doing is wrong in some way. Even making a call, writing something, eating or even talking in front of others is difficult for them as they are afraid they are making some kind of error in their task. This makes that person extremely self-conscious.

The person makes a goal, which he considers as perfect. Unfortunately, that goal cannot be reached. This makes that person miserable and he loses more self-confidence, strengthening his belief that he can never do anything correct.

Consequences of Atelophobia

As a result of this mental illness, the person is unable to cope with other normal people of the society. Relationships are severely affected. When the person fails to reach his target of “perfect”, he becomes depressed. Depression itself is dangerous in its own ways.

Capabilities of Atelophobic People

Although the Atelophobic is as intelligent and as talented as other people in society, or even more, his capabilities are masked by his fear of losing. He does not compete with anyone, nor does he accept any challenge.

For instance, if he is gifted with the talent of painting, he won’t paint. If he will, he won’t show it to others because he will think it is not “perfect”. He will remake it and change it again and again, but will not be satisfied.

This fear of imperfection can inhibit them from doing anything productive at all because they are afraid that may not do it right and disappoint those around them and themselves. This phobia can be especially inhibiting in the workplace where taking initiative is sometimes the only way one can get ahead. Their Atelophobic condition leads them to avoid responsibility at all cost.

There are other types of persons who are not necessarily inhibited by this condition in the sense that they avoid responsibility but are inhibited in psycho social development. These persons fear imperfection to the degree where they obsessively ensure that each task they complete is done to their perceived degree of perfection. These are the perfectionist and neat freaks in our society. Their desire for perfection can become so obsessive to the point where they eventually develop obsessive compulsive disorders. Persons with this disorder are bombarded with intrusive thoughts of worry, fear and apprehension. They demonstrate repeated behaviour such as excessive washing or cleaning, hoarding an in general a preoccupation with most minor details.

We live in a society that defines perfection and then demands that this standard of perfection is met. If not society is quick to malign the outcast who do not meet its expectation. These artificially created standards of perfection often acts as a definitive marker for success within society and of course those who do not meet these standards are quickly branded as failures. Failure is the Atelophobic’s biggest fear. They fear being ostracized, not living up to expectations and most of all criticism.

People who are atelophobic often have an inability to relax as their mind is constantly being bombarded with thoughts of possible failure. They often suffer from insomnia which leaves them unable to sleep at night. This disorder of the mind is also often found in persons who are suffering from anorexia or bulimia. They are so obsessed with meeting society’s expectations of beauty that they literally starve themselves. This is one instance where atelophobia can be physically harmful to your health.

If you think you are suffering from this condition then it is important that you visit your psychologist so that a diagnosis can be done and later treatment. If you are diagnosed with Atelophobia your therapist may recommend anti-anxiety medication which will aid in your ability to relax. It is important to have this condition treated if you wish to have a normal life. It can not only be harmful to yourself but you can greatly depreciate the quality of life of those around you who have to deal with you on a constant basis. Its not fun for the average person to deal with people who have obsessive behaviors.

Praying for our region…

Good Morning 🙏😊🙏

We pray for those who have been devastated by recent natural disasters. We remember those who have lost their lives so suddenly. We hold in our hearts the families forever changed by grief and loss. Bring them consolation and comfort.

Surround them with our prayers for strength. Bless those who have survived and heal their memories of trauma and devastation. May they have the courage to face the long road of rebuilding ahead.
We ask your blessing on all those who have lost their homes, their livelihoods, their security and their hope. Bless the work of relief agencies and those providing emergency assistance. May their work be guided by the grace and strength that comes from You alone.

Help us to respond with generosity in prayer, in assistance, in aid to the best of our abilities. Keep our hearts focused on the needs of those affected, even after the crisis is over. We ask this in Jesus’ name,

Amen.
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When we go…

Good Morning ☀😉☀
Scripture stated that we brought nothing into the world, nor can we take anything out of it(1Timothy 6:7).
When we go, we leave memories with our loved ones. Make them fond memories.
When we go, we can leave a legacy behind. Make it one of honesty and integrity.
Wishing you a magnificent day 🙏😊🙏

Precious Blood…

MONTH OF THE PRECIOUS BLOOD

The month of July traditionally honors the Most Precious Blood of Jesus. It is the blood of Christ, the Lamb of God, which cleanses from sin, therefore the Church developed a devotion to Jesus’ physical blood and its mystical power, just as it did for his Sacred Heart from which his blood poured out on the Cross. The Precious Blood of Jesus courses through the Church spiritually, giving eternal life to the Body of Christ through the sacraments. Many saints had a devotion to the Precious Blood of Jesus, most notably St. Catherine of Siena. Devotion to the Precious Blood spread greatly through the preaching of Bl. Gaspar del Bufalo, a 19th century priest and founder of the Missionaries of the Precious Blood, and was later approved and recommended by the Holy See. The feast day of the Most Precious Blood of Jesus is July 1st. 

Life… 

Good Morning ☀😊☀
In dealing with life’s challenges and demands, we become weak and vulnerable; we make bad decision; we feel hopeless and helpless. 
We need to realize that we’re in control of ourselves no matter what happens. We will not ignore the unfortunate circumstances because we must use them as reasons for the better person.
Choose to be in healthy environments and foster healthy relationships. 
Avoide negative influences like a plague. Build a positive support system. 
Develop and improve skills. Be productive not destructive. 
Wishing you a thoughtful day 🙏😉🙏