I’ve been in many conversations where I am asked, “How do I forgive him/her/them/myself?” So I just thought I would share the following.
Forgiveness is an action, it doesn’t just occur; we must do it. How is it done? It begins within us, we start to forgive internally. We hinder forgiveness from existing when we allow ourselves to hate and resent others or when we set out to have revenge. We cannot feel forgiveness; we have to will it into being. We have to work on forgiveness; forgiveness of others and forgiveness of self.
In the Lord’s Prayer we say: “Forgive us our trespasses; as we forgive those who trespass us against us”.
Sometimes the “those who trespass against us” can be ourselves too. Do we set out to forgive ourselves? Forgiveness, once again, starts within us; it’s internal. If you decide to hate and resent yourself then you hinder your own forgiveness and your ability to forgive others.
Be Brave; Be Strong; Forgive.
N’koma
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.